Students are often the first to know when one of their friends, roommates, or peers is significantly struggling. For this reason, UR students are likely to be the most helpful in getting another student connected to appropriate campus resources through the CARE network. Often, students see and hear what the student is really experiencing and are able to provide insight into how this student is doing in multiple areas of his or her life.
We encourage you to submit a CARE Referral when there is significant reason to be concerned about another UR student. Whether this student is your best friend, classmate, roommate or hallmate, significant other, teammate, or fellow club member, the CARE system can be of assistance.
While student perspectives will vary, the following list provides some areas to consider when identifying a student of concern:
- Disengaging or isolating—Is the student disengaging from activities of which he or she was previously interested? Are they staying in their room all day, missing meals, seeming uninterested in previously enjoyed activities?
- Missing multiple classes and assignments—Is the student choosing not to go to class even though there is a penalty for missing? Are they falling behind in multiple classes or in multiple assignments? Are they missing class because of other, less important, activities (e.g., sleeping, playing video games, watching TV, etc.)?
- Noticeable change in the student’s behavior or appearance—Do you have concerns about a student's behavior? Is the student having trouble connecting with peers? Have you noticed a significant change the in the student's appearance or mood?
- Problematic behaviors—Are you concerned about the amount of alcohol the student is consuming? Are they participating in behaviors that are unhealthy and have you worried? Are they seemingly reckless with their choices and actions?
- Receipt of concerning information—Has the student told you information that has you concerned for his or her well being? Do you feel that the student could benefit from the support of a caring UR staff member? Do you feel “in over your head”?
- Something just doesn't feel right—Are you concerned about a fellow student, but aren't sure why? There are times when your gut instinct tells you that there is reason for concern, but you can only identify certain behaviors or oddities that lead you to believe the student may need assistance. Please submit a CARE Referral and let us know your thoughts.
While one of the concerns listed above, alone, may not trigger a CARE Referral, a combination of these concerns may be cause for concern. Any information you submit may initiate the process of identifying a student in distress, or may add to information we already have about a student of concern.
If you are still uncertain about whether you should submit a CARE Referral, please review this document. You may also or instead choose to submit a Bias-Related Incident Report or Community Concern Report.
If you have concerns about a student, are unsure how to engage with a student of concern, or would like to talk through a challenging situation, one-on-one consultations are available with a CARE staff member. The meeting can be held over the phone or in the Office of the Dean of Students—whichever you prefer.
Appointments can be scheduled by calling (585) 275-4085.
Club or organization presentations
A CARE staff member is available to provide presentations to your club or organization based on the club or organization’s needs and desire for more information. Contact a CARE staff member if you or your club or organization would like more information about:
- Working with students in distress
- How/when to submit a CARE Referral
- Establishing healthy boundaries
- Recognizing signs of concerning behavior
- Working with distressed and distressing students
- Questions to consider before submitting a CARE Referral
Are you concerned about a friend? Not sure how to initiate the conversation with him or her? Below are a few suggestions that may help you in telling this student about the resources available to him or her on campus.
- “I can’t help but notice that you [list behaviors or concerns]. Have you talked with anyone about this?”
- “Do you have anyone on campus that you think could be really helpful to you right now?”
- “Let’s submit a CARE Referral so a CARE staff member can let us know how to work through these challenges.”
- “Who else on campus knows what you’ve been going through?”
- “Let’s go talk to a CARE staff member together so we can get you connected to a few resources.”