University Counseling Center (UCC)
The Demanding Student
Typically, the time and energy you give to the demanding student is never enough. They often seek to control your time and unconsciously believe the amount of time received is a reflection of their worth.
DO:DON'T:
- Offer limited but positive feedback
- Acknowledge your time commitments and tell them upfront
- Set limits on your time and keep to them (e.g., "I have only 10 minutes" or "Excuse me, I need to attend to other things")
- Maintain clear boundaries in relationship
- Offer them other possibilities of places to get support/attention
- Let him/her use you as his/her only source of support.
- Get trapped into being bullied out of your comfort zone (time, role)
- Make exceptions, special "deals" bargains
- Let them give you a "guilt trip"
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