For Parents/Friends

University Counseling Center (UCC)

Ways to Cope

It's important to take care of yourself as you care for your son or daughter. Consider the following ways to cope with the stress that his or her situation can bring.

Allow yourself to experience your emotions.
It is normal for family members to feel many confusing and conflicting emotions when child leaves home. These feelings can include sadness, guilt, relief, joy, or apprehension. Whatever you are feeling, there is little benefit in pretending these feelings are not there. A healthier approach is to talk about these feelings with family, friends, religious or spiritual support, or some other listener.

Make your own well-being a goal.
During stressful times, it is important that you get enough sleep, eat healthy meals, and get adequate exercise. Spending time doing things that you like is also an important step toward your own well-being. This is the perfect time to find a new outlet.

Remember that coming to the University of Rochester is an important developmental step for your student.
Having a student at UR signals, in part, your success as a parent or guardian. It is a very big step toward adulthood and responsibility for making more independent choices. Be proud of yourself!