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Last modified: Monday, 19-Nov-2012 16:35:31 EST
Sexual Assault and Dating Violence Dating Violence
When You Know Someone Who Is Experiencing Dating Violence...
Offer to learn what resources are available on campus and in the community so that your friend can begin to find the help and support s/he needs.
Focus your concerns on your friend's safety while being honest about your view of the risky behavior you have observed.
Make it clear you are willing to help if and when your friend is ready to end the relationship.
Point out that it is the person who is doing the battering who is 100% responsible for the violent behavior.
Even though alcohol is often present when domestic or relationship violence occurs, it is not the underlying cause of the problem.
Focus on the behavior, not on the excuses for the behavior.
Allow the person who is being battered to choose the time to leave the relationship very carefully.
If your friend returns to the relationship, ask your friend to pay attention to whether the violent behavior has actually changed enough to make it worth another try.