Supporting a Friend or Loved One
How can I help a friend who was accused of violating Title IX?
Hear your friend’s point of view.
Acknowledge your friend’s feelings about the situation.
Refer your friend to other resources. You do not have to have all of the answers, and it is not your responsibility to fix the problem or determine what occurred. Let your friend know how much support you can provide and where other support is available.
DO –
- Encourage your friend to connect with counseling resources on campus.
- Talk to your friend about whether getting an advisor might help.
- Be honest with your friend about how much support you can offer.
- Seek counseling for yourself if you need it. Supporting a friend can be difficult.
AVOID –
- Offering to contact the complainant on your friend’s behalf. This could be seen as retaliation which is prohibited and could result in disciplinary action.
- Share your friend’s story with others.
- Tell your friend what to do.
- Cast blame on your friend or on the person who brought the complaint.